Week 21 My Self-Love Journey
Last week I shared a very personal experience that revealed to me that my self-Love journey is making a difference. If you read my post, you may have noticed that I wrote the word “aware” in bold letters. But first, a little back story…
In 2020, right in the middle of the Covid 19 pandemic, I lead a group of beautiful women through a program which I called DISCOVER. It was a personal development program created by me. Juan and I had been working with some of these ladies (and a couple of men) in a previous program (The 180 Project) and the women wanted to continue the work. So, I created DISCOVER.
DISCOVER began with an exploration of the things that hold us back or cause us to feel “stuck” in life. We looked at things like fear, vulnerability, judgment, and guilt. From there, we began exploring ways to overcome these feelings and emotions.
While working with these amazing women, I accidentally DISCOVERed that awareness is an important key to overcoming those things that hold us back. Each week, as we explored various topics of self-DISCOVERy, I began to notice this common theme. Awareness. I realized that in order to accomplish change, we had to become aware of the need for the change.
For example, when we worked on judgment, the ladies talked about how surprised they were to see how much they judged throughout the week. Likewise, when we talked about fear, we were surprised to learn how many emotions fall under the umbrella of fear. So, awareness became an important part of our journey of self-discovery.
During My Self-Love Journey, I have learned that practicing self-love takes awareness. Self-love isn’t just about loving yourself more. It’s also about seeing yourself as you truly are, deciding what you like and what you don’t like and then making the decision to make changes when needed.
It’s kind of like cleaning out your closet. You’ve got to look inside, sort things out and decide what fits and what doesn’t, what you like and what you don’t like and then decide what to do with it. If your closet is overflowing, that makes it harder to figure out what to wear each day. If you never really stop and look at what’s in your closet or you never get rid of anything, suddenly one day you realize your closet is so full that it’s overflowing. But, when you get rid of the stuff you never wear, it’s easier to see the things you do like.
The same could be said for your self-love journey. If you’ve got “too much stuff in there” then you’re going to have a hard time seeing the real you, the You that is worthy of love. By working on self-awareness, you will see what needs to go and what needs to be kept.
When I made the discovery about my need to be right, I decided that was something that needed to go. I remembered something I read somewhere, “Would you rather be right, or would you rather be happy.” Me? I’m going for happy!
I’m planning to launch DISCOVER again this Fall. If you’ve found yourself feeling stuck and want to develop more self-awareness to help you move forward, then you’re invited to join me and six other women on this journey of self-discovery. I’ll be posting more information throughout the summer, so be on the lookout for that!
Until next time, may you see yourself as you truly are, the good, the bad, and the ugly but remember it is ALL worthy of Love. I often hear Juan quote Maya Angelou, “Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”
With Love & Gratitude, Charlotte