This is little nugget of insight has been lying in wait in my journal since Sunday. Sometimes what I write in my journal turns out to be fodder for a blog post. This is just such an example on arguing or accepting reality. Please, read on…
I find it fascinating when the work I’m doing reveals itself in multiple ways. I believe they call it “synchronicity.”
I recently began reading the book “Loving What Is” by Bryon Katie. The book was originally published in 2002 and again in 2021 with revisions.
The basic premise of the book, as I understand it, is that when we are able to see the reality of a situation, or the truth, and accept it as it is, we can relieve emotional suffering. For example, a statement I’ve often heard and even said myself is, “People are so inconsiderate.”
In my opinion I have often found this to be a true statement. It is based on what I believe to be right and wrong. So, if I believe that to be a true statement, then for me it is reality. (Here’s where the insight came to me) If that is reality, as I see it, then I have a choice. I can choose to fight with reality by allowing myself to become annoyed, frustrated or even angry about “inconsiderate people” OR I can choose to let it go. I can choose to accept that yes, some people are inconsiderate.
In her book, Bryon Katie gives the example, “My kids never listen to me.” What parent hasn’t ever made that statement, right? But, if that’s true, if that is the reality as you see it, then why do you fight with that? How might your life be different if you just surrender, and accept the idea that your kids never listen to you? I know, it sounds scary.
This is an oversimplification of the idea, which Katie calls “The Work.” But she’s not the only one showing me the truth about accepting reality. [On Friday] in “The Untethered Soul Guided Journal,” by Michael Singer, he says, “If anything happens that challenges how you view things, you fight. You defend. You rationalize. You get frustrated and angry over little things. This is the result of being unable to fit what’s actually happening into your model of reality.”
We get frustrated when things don’t align with what we believe is true, in our reality.
When we let go of the need for everyone else to fit our view of reality, then we begin to feel a greater sense of peace. We stop trying to get the world to conform to our reality and we accept what is. And to drive that idea a little deeper into me, “A Course in Miracles” tells me this [on Sunday]:
“Let all things be exactly as they are… Only reality is free of pain. Only reality is free of loss. Only reality is wholly safe.” Lesson 268.
This week I invite you to take a closer look at your reality. Try to notice when you are fighting with reality. Notice how it makes you feel. Then surrender. Let go of trying to justify “it” in your mind and just accept what is. Acknowledge that “some people are inconsiderate” or “my kids never listen to me” and that is what it is. Notice how that feels. Do you find a sense of peace by accepting that some things just are what they are? Even for just a moment? Keep practicing, it gets easier.
Be sure to let me know how that goes for you!
With Love & Gratitude,